"Listen to the mustn'ts, child. Listen to the don'ts. Listen to the shouldn'ts, the impossibles, the won'ts. Listen to the never haves, then listen close to me... Anything can happen, child. Anything can be." - Shel Silverstein

Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Bad Night... Bad Day

Marissa was up every hour, on the hour, starting at midnight. She (and we) got up for good at 3:30 this morning. 3 pukes, 2 baths, and 5 loads of laundry later, I am not anticipating a very good day. She is still craving her daddy and does not want anything to do with me. My feelings are not hurt, but I am tired of her slapping me. Yes, you read correctly, she slaps me, for no reason. Just hauls off and hits me. No provocation. No warning. I know she does not feel good, but c'mon.

OK, so this post isn't about me and my stinging face.

Please pray that Marissa can keep her fluids in. I do not want her admitted to the hospital because she is dehydrated from puking. And the puking can't feel good on her throat. Please also pray that the poop roller coaster has come to a stop. She seems to follow this pattern when on narcotic pain meds: constipation, needing suppositories to make her go, a few hard and difficult poops, then diarrhea and a bad diaper rash. My poor girl, I feel so bad for her. I would take it all on myself if I could.

One last prayer: Please pray for Stellan. He was just intubated and put under for a three hour, very risky surgery on his little heart as I type this. Pray for his family and for the doctors. If you can, wear orange today in honor of him.



Hope said...

I wonder why she's slapping so much lately. I'm sure she doesn't realize the impact her actions have on you, but it would hurt my feelings if it were me.

Alicia, You know I think you are one heck of a Momma! I wish I could offer more help than words.

Praying for Rissa, Stellan, Emerson, Gavin, Gavin (2 of them), Jonah, Gabe, Faith, Mikan, Jack, Zoey, Abbey, Abby, Abigail Grace, Reilly, Gwendolyn, Laneah, Addison, Kayleigh, Phoenix, and many, many more!

Michelle said...

So sorry to hear about your bad night and bad day. If there is anything I can do, just let me know.

I'll keep Stellan in my prayers.

Auntie Chelle

Queen Mommy said...

Sending big HUGS to you! I remember post T&A time only too well (without the hitting). I'll keep Marissa (and you) in my prayers.

For the vomiting, you're probably already doing this or have at least considered it (in which case just ignore the following), but Pedialyte might be absorbed easier right now, also running it in at a slower rate (even if it's only 15-30 mls an hour)??? Did the ENT's office have any advice to offer?

For the constipation, I would definitely do the glycerine suppositories, at least one today (only because I know how scary it is dealing with a child who has a partial/complete bowel obstruction). Then possibly lactobacillus or yogurt to help with the loose stools? We've dealt with so many open, bleeding, nasty diaper rashes. What works best for us is Burt's Bees Diaper cream. I would gently cleanse the area with cotton balls dipped in mineral oil, then apply Nystatin to the yeasty areas, and slather the Burt's Bees all over her diaper area. Within a couple of days, the rash was usually 75% gone. (I know everyone has their nasty rash routine that works best for them. This is just the one that we've found very effective.)

Praying you can both get in a good nap and that Marissa starts feeling better very soon!! And, praying you can avert the nasty diaper rash and dehydration/hospitalization!!

ANewKindOfPerfect said...

Poor thing. (You and Marissa!) I hope she feels better soon. Getting slapped is no fun. I'm sorry!!

Queen Mommy said...

BTW, I saw Marissa's "orangeforStellan" picture. Adorable! She must look better than she feels.

The VW's said...

Poor Momma and Poor Marissa!!! I am so sorry that she isn't feeling well and that you guys got very little sleep! UGH! I feel horrible just thinking about your night! I'll be praying! Try to hang in there!

And, Marissa, Be nice to your Momma! She probably is just hurting and doesn't know how to express how she is feeling and knows that you love her no matter what! But, I'm sure this can't be fun for you! PRAYING!!!

Janice said...

Sorry you had a bad night and day. Maybe narcotic pain meds are part of her slapping problem? In the pre-op video she was slapping at Jeremy too.

But she could be mad and needs to let you know. I'd be mad too if I were her! Sometimes you just want everyone to stop poking at you. She could be saying, "No more mama!" You're the target because you probably participate more in preparation for procedures - doctor's visits - clinics -therapies - hospital stays.

Yea...sounds like a real fighter's attitude! This kid isn't going to take much from this world. I think Rissa has spoken!

I love you and hope for a better night, better day, more sleep, no poop roller coaster or puking marathon.

Huggs & Kisses
Grandma Utah

Michelle said...

Oh man, I hope things get better...that just sucks and I know you are exhausted.

John and Jenna Gensic said...

I'm so sorry about the puking and the thankless mom duties. I hope that Marissa feels better soon. Another hospital stay is the last thing she needs.


The Marini's said...

Praying for Marissa and you!!!!!!!

Much love,